Impostor Syndrome, is this you?

Impostor Syndrome, is this you?

Impostor Syndrome.

So, to begin with what is impostor syndrome?

Impostor syndrome is a psychological pattern in which individuals doubt their accomplishments and has a persistent internalised fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. Wikipedia 2019

  • Do you feel like you are never good enough?
  • Feel like a fraud?
  • Feel that luck has got you to where you are?
  • Feel like you know hardly anything?
  • Do you feel like you are faking it?
  • Do you see yourself as being below people around you, especially ones at the same level as you?
  • Are you never good enough? even if people tell you so.
  • I feel like a con-artist, conning my way through life.
  • I put myself out there as being better than I really am.

I have also found that people who suffer from impostor syndrome will not accept a compliant. This may be about work, the way they look, the way they are, something they have done. They will always look for a way to distract from it or put it down, or worse put themselves down.

Imposter syndrome is a belief that you are inadequate or and incompetent, even though their will be evidence to prove otherwise.

I found an article that talks about 5 different types of impostor syndrome, click here to read.

  1. The perfectionist – often going hand in hand with impostor syndrome
  2. The supper women/man – believing they are phoney around work colleagues
  3. The natural genius – if it takes time to grasp something, you feel shame
  4. The soloist – asking for help reveals that you are a phoney
  5. The expert – will never know enough, fear of being exposed as inexperienced or unknowledgeable

This image I feel hits the nail on the head. Is this you? Do you feel like any of the above? Is impostor syndrome holding you back?

I have worked with impostor syndrome using an amazing therapy called BWRT® and it really does help.

Contact me if this is you, I can get you moving in the direction you want, feeling more confident in yourself and your own abilities.

Negative Effects of Impostor Syndrome

Whilst impostor syndrome may well fuel motivation, work harder to be better, this is often with a constant feeling of anxiety. I must do better, I need to work harder to prove myself, I need to work harder to look like I know what I am doing, the list could go on.

I found this on – https://thehustle.co/why-70-percent-of-millennials-have-impostor-syndrome

I feel that the above image really sums up impostor syndrome so very well, it also shows the points at which you can really feel the affects of anxiety. No matter how hard you work, or how good you are as a person, or how good you look, you will always ignore or push away positive feed back.

If the above rings true, then you can do something about it. Remember, you weren’t born with impostor syndrome.

Smoking slowly killing you??

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Is the answer yes?

Then how committed are you to quit?

How much do you want to be a non smoker or ex smoker?

Maybe you want to be able to walk upstairs without puffing and panting, or go out for a family walk and be able to keep up.

Maybe you wish to smell nice, your breath smell fresh.

Or do you want more money in your pocket.

Do you wish to be healthy and well, get rid of that persistent cough?

There are many reasons people wish to quit smoking, the list is endless…

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Do it for you

The most important thing is you have to want to do it for you, yes family can be a great motivator, wanting to be able to run around and keep up with the kids, BUT it has to be for you ultimately or you will not stay a non smoker.

This is why I asked the questions above, how much do YOU want it?

If it isn’t an 8,9 or 10 out of 10 then I will send you away until it is. I will not waste my time or your money unless you are truly motivated to do this.

I use the fantastic BWRT®️ therapy for smoking cessation, it has an amazing protocol and works a treat as long as you really want it and I mean really want it!

If you don’t really want to quit, you may be getting pressure from a loved one, then it may work for a while but probably not forever. BWRT®️ is a fabulous therapy and works great but it will not work miracles.

Some reasons to quit smoking

A reminder of what you are putting in your body

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For up to date prices on smoking cessation please click here

Some will ask why smoking cessation sessions are more expensive, it shows commitment which is what is needed for success.

Smoking cessation is often done in the one session

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Anxiety can ruin so much

 

 

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Do something to stop anxiety

If you suffer from anxiety then it can and dose affect life, from the simple things like going shopping and visiting friends to avoiding family holidays and missing out on life.

For some it’s anxiety all the time, for others it’s connected to certain things like heights, animals, being in open spaces or crowds. It takes on many forms and all are distressing on their own way.

Anxiety has many symptoms, the ones we hear of the most are the hot or cold sweats, tight chest, feeling sick or excessive butterflies and heart palpitations. But for some it’s a fear or dred that engulfs them, others it can affect their vision and give wobbly legs, all distressing in their own way.

 

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Some of the many symptoms of anxiety, but there will be people reading this that may well have others, some will recognise all and have experienced them, others may just recognise one or two of them.

BWRT®️

Therapy can and does help, whether it’s anxiety for a particular event, an exam or speech for example, or if anxiety is something that is taking over, social anxiety. BWRT®️ Is an amazing therapy that I do and it doesn’t involve hypnotherapy, some people are wary about hypnosis and hypnotherapy, that may be due to religion and beliefs or what people have seen on tv or in the media.

I have a blog on BWRT®️ and it gives more info.

 

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People often say that depression is living in the past and anxiety is living in the future, where you need to be is in the here and now.

One thing I find that helps to be in the moment is just breathing, I have a timer on my watch for breathing. It is either 2 or 5 mins and all you do is follow the prompts to breath in and out. I have clients that have used an app called head space, I haven’t used it but if you give it a go and find it helpful please let me know.

It can often take a few goes to find what works for you but please take time out and look after yourself

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